Posted by: Pure Glory | 07/29/2022

Forgiveness Of Others And Oneself, Heals!

by Hazel Straub

Forgiveness means releasing the resentment, bitterness, blame, hostility, hatred, anger and fear that you have towards someone who has transgressed against you or even against yourself. It also means to cancel the need to punish the offender. Releasing the offender from your judgment, allows God to deal with the offender. Forgiving yourself for your mistakes, gets rid of self condemnation and allows you to receive all the blessings God has for you! Forgiveness is an act of the will, not an emotion.

When we do not forgive, however, we rehearse the wrongs and dwell in the poison, we intend for others. Often, when we haven’t forgiven, we engage in negative thoughts and emotions and relive the trauma, without any resolution. Unforgiveness adds high stress to one’s body and mind that opens one up for chronic physical disease or mental torment and mental illness. The cost of unforgiveness is extremely costly to one’s self.

When we accept Jesus as our Savior, our sins are forgiven. In order to receive forgiveness, however, we need to cancel the debt owed us, by others. If we do not release the offender, we stew in our own bitterness and anger that we want the offender to drink. This bitter root grows and effects not only the one living, as a victim but also those in relationship with them.  (“…lest any root of bitterness spring up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled.” Hebrews 12:15)

Jesus told a parable about a king in Matthew 18:23-25 who had a servant who owed him millions of dollars and couldn’t repay the debt. The servant asked for mercy and the king had compassion and cancelled the debt. Then the servant went to a fellow servant and demanded payment for a lessor debt of a few dollars and refused to have mercy and threw him in prison until the debt was paid. When the king learned of this, he threw the unforgiving servant in prison and delivered him to the tormentors. Jesus said we would have the same treatment, if we did not forgive others from our heart. When we forgive, we become victorious with no place for the enemy to steal, destroy and kill us. Our prayers reach God unhindered and we can enjoy living, without the regret and shame of reliving the past and never healing.

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  1. Amen 🙏🏾. It would be good if people understood the cost to their mental, emotional and physical health when they don’t forgive. It’s literally drinking poison. We set ourselves free to live when we forgive. Thank you for this great reminder. 🙏🏾

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  2. Reblogged this on thehouseofprayers.


  3. This post is so true. Unforgiveness for someone’s sin against you eats away at you until there is nothing left. One becomes a hollow shell of themselves and this is not what God had planned for us. God always wants the best for us.

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    • Amen! God’s best includes letting the poison of unforgiveness go!


  4. Forgiveness gives peace of mind…it frees your soul to also grow.

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  5. Beautifully written excellent message yes if we know to forgive we can live without regret। Thanks for sharing 🙂

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    • Glory to God! He forgives us and set the example for us You are welcome! 😊


  6. Beautiful message yes we need to forgive to live life without regret! Well shared thanks 😊

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    • Yes, when we forgive our lives go much better with no bitterness, diseases from unforgiveness and living a blessed life. Blessings!


  7. So good! I love this statement, “When we do not forgive, however, we rehearse the wrongs and dwell in the poison, we intend for others.” The vivid imagery of the poison will be something I remember. Thank you for a great post!

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  8. Great, insightful and confirming read. Thanks!

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  9. tl;dr Forgive as we have been forgiven. 🙂

    Hi there. Skimming through this and I recall something I read elsewhere: Your disrespect to others is a reflection of how you possibly disrespect yourself. Building on this, we could say that we are able to forgive others by forgiving ourselves… and if that sounds like a daunting or confusing task, we give thanks to God – for through Christ, we have been forgiven.

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    • It is is important to forgive others and ourselves, so we can receive forgiveness, from God through Christ Jesus. We need to pass that forgiveness to others.


  10. I just wrote a whole Bible study on forgiveness. I’m teaching my first group tomorrow evening! Great post!

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    • Blessings to you as you teach on forgiveness. It is really key for healing and wholeness. Thank you! ❤️

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